Site Disclaimers


I am not a therapist, social worker or doctor of any kind. I am a wife of an Active Duty Service Member, Mother, Writer, Designer, Friend, and this is a Blog, not WebMD. Any advice given is done so from “one spouse to another” and while done so with best intentions and years of experience, it is just my opinion and just my advice. Please seek professional help when needed.

Legally, Morally and Just because I can…..

I can and will refuse to add or approve mean or hurtful comments to this Blog, affiliated websites, Facebook & Twitter. “Friends” added to all these sites are at my discretion and will be deleted, unfriended or banished if trouble from said person arises. is NOT affiliated with the United States Navy, The Department of Defense or The Federal Government, nor are the opinions stated on this blog a representation of any organization.
“Anything But Dependent” is a weekly spouse Column that has been published in Military Publications such as, The Periscope Newspaper. The Name and it’s contents belong to it’s author (Marie Hobson) and cannot be reproduced without permission or proper credit given.

 OPSEC: (Operations Security)

Please no discussion of unit / ship / boat movements, dates, command names, port calls, destinations, mail drops, homecomings, peoples names in connection with a command, no spreading rumors, no causing hate and discontent.  In regards to OPSEC,  posts may not always be in “present time”. Example: If  writing a post about deployment, that does not mean “the husband” is deployed. If  I write about a current situation such as dry dock, shift work, refit, forward deployments, port calls, etc, I will wait to post these. If you read a post on this, it has been written at an earlier date and I have waited to post so that I do not give the location of a boat at any given time.  I never write about the boats condition or status. I want to keep my husband and your spouses/family SAFE!!


Though there is a cost to maintaining this site,  I am not accepting advertisements on this Blog.  Period.  This space is my personal blog and though I have had many offers to make money on this endeavor, I will respectfully decline.  I know there are wonderful companies with incredible products that have offered to advertise, do give-aways, and would like me to do product reviews, but I feel that the content and quality of this space would be altered if I went down this path.  Thank you in advance for understanding.


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2 thoughts on “Site Disclaimers

  1. I just wanted to say thank you. I am a Navy wife we will be married 14 years in June. He has been active duty for what will be 14 years in August. I was married young, 18 almost 19 and we started out family when I was 20. We have moved up and down and back again along the east coast and even did a small stint out in AZ – don’t ask, lol! We have been truly blessed to not face a deployment to date. No my husband is not a ship dodger, he is a hard working sailor who started out as an E3 and was picked up along the was for the STA-21 program where he agreed upon finishing school to become a SWO only when he was finished they picked him up for a once in a life time program to go finish graduate school and get his PhD. He is now a naval psychologist. Just two weeks ago he took his test to be able to be on his own and what that means in Navy land, be deployed. Well even though we have been working towards this goal and knowing that when he finished it would be our time I never really thought it would really happen. I mean really we have had all the benefits of being military and only a small part of the bad side. So I have an almost 13 year old daughter who is a daddy’s girl and has always had him around, a 9 year old boy who is smarter than I am and a lot to handle and a 2 year old girl, and well she’s two so you know what that means! I am so dependent on my husband for so much. He does bath time, helps in the mornings, cooks dinner and much much more. I have fibromyalgia which leaves me feeling less than stellar most days. But the clock is ticking and our time is coming. I am scared out of my mind. Our closest family is 5 hours away which lets face it with a 2 year old could mean 10 hours (I swear this child hates the car). My older kids are in school so life MUST go on, not like I cam pick up and go “home” (wherever that is) for his deployments & work ups. So I stumble onto this blog and think hot damn! This may help me figure things out! We don’t live in base housing but we do live in a good neighborhood that is tight nit and I’m sure I will get support there. We are starting to go to church which I think will help as well with having help…. But seriously, how am I going to do this. Most days I’m not sure I can do the little bit that I do do (my son would laugh and say “mom, you said dodo.”). Okay so give me pointers. I have never been part of any wives clubs or anything, I don’t know how it all works and I’m scared! Oh and by the way, while my husband is not a ship dodger, I totally would be if I could be…. I am going to try hard not to break the rule that says “thou shalt not ask thy husband to stay home” because I know if it were a choice he would pick us. So now I prepare…. What groups can I get involved in? How can I help my kids cope while dad is gone? Amy mad all advice welcome. Please don’t bash us because this will be our first deployment (we have had people really angry about it, but I wouldn’t change it one bit I’m glad he was able to to school full time and come home at night, we know we were lucky and blessed)

    Thank you!
    Sarah F

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